The Raw, Real & Rebelicious Podcast - with Michelle Rebelle Coops

S2E10 A Fresh Perspective on Prioritizing Yourself

Welcome to another soul-stirring podcast episode. This time, we'll be diving deep into a critical question - how do you prioritize yourself in a healthy way? This is especially important in an era of over-giving, where we often forget to put ourselves first.

In society, the concept of self-prioritization is often justified with popular notions of self-care and autonomy. We'll question that view and challenge the common but misleading perception that self-autonomy means a hierarchy that unintentionally places others on the back burner.

We'll explore a different conceptual slant. Self-prioritization isn't an either/or choice, nor should it create hierarchy. The key to a healthy balance, lies in redefining the narrative: it isn't about 'me first', but 'me as well'.

This view recognizes that while all individuals, including ourselves, are important, circumstances and relationships can influence where the most attention is required at a given time. This shift helps recenter us back into the cranial fabric of our communities, fostering stronger, healthier relationships with others and ourselves.

Join us on this enlightening episode, as we dismantle black and white sayings, and embrace a more inclusive, relatable approach to self-care. Discover how a healthy balance of autonomy can color your life and inspire you to mature in your sovereignty. So, get ready to embark on a redefined journey of self-prioritization, where every soul matters!

S2E9 The Art of Repair

Do you find it hard to deal with conflict and disagreements in your relationships? This insightful podcast episode dissects the multifaceted nature of relationships, reminding us that it’s not always going to be roses and rainbows.

Instead, it touches upon the importance of repair when conflicts arise, providing practical tips on how to efficiently resolve issues to maintain and enhance the connection in your relationships.

Every relationship has moments of disruption, but it's the way we respond and the attempts we make at repair that matter more. Delve into this episode for six essential tips on mending relationships, from expressing emotions rather than projecting stories to making your request clear and simple. Equally important is the trust that your partner is on your team, has your back, and doesn’t intend to hurt you.

The episode wraps up on a lighter note, suggesting that sometimes words aren’t the best form of communication- a simple hug or physical touch can restore the connection more potently.

A must-listen for those finding it challenging to handle the conflict in relationships or anyone simply interested in improving their communication and relational skills. Tune in to hear more and take your relationship to the next level.

S2E8 Overcoming Fear of Abandonment through the Best Relationship Ever

In this inspiring and insightful podcast episode, we seek to explore the relationship with self, focusing on the crucial topic of the fear of abandonment. A basic human instinct that goes back years to when survival relied on being part of a tribe, this fear has evolved into more complex forms, manifesting in our relationships and our interactions with the world.

We delve into how fear of abandonment may be dictating our responses, choosing a life of misery over the fright of being alone, or holding on too tight to avoid giving others the space to go. The central theme remains the same: deep down, it's all about not wanting to be left alone without the protection of the tribe which essentially translates to the fear of death.

Through personal experiences and psychological insights, I present how overcoming this fear can only be achieved if we prioritize ourselves and nourish the relationship with self above anything else. Recognize your fears, feelings, stories, physical discomforts, all in an effort to understand that there is a part of you that longs for recognition and attention.

Explore an intriguing concept of reparenting ourselves where you express love, empathy, and strictness towards your inner child. It's about teaching ourselves that it's completely okay to be available for our emotions, needs, desires, to give voice to them, and ultimately to be available for us.

Tune into this episode for a deeper understanding of yourself, to work your way towards overcoming fears, and forming a stronger, healthier bond with yourself.

S2E7 Unraveling the Contradictory Dance between Distance and Closeness in Relationships

Welcome to a captivating exploration of the complex world of relationship dynamics. In this podcast episode, we delve deep into the familiar dance between love and fear; discussing the delicate equilibrium of emotional space and connection, and the subconscious dance where each partner has contrasting needs. We uncover the underlying causes of one partner's retreat and provide practical strategies to help manage this effectively. Also, we explore withdrawal as a coping mechanism, the significance of hormones and attachment styles in the mix of things.

Understanding your partner's withdrawal as their safe haven during stress can, often times, change your perspective. This episode aims to help you empathize with your partner's retreat as being unrelated to the relationship and more as a coping mechanism. In the midst of all this, acknowledging your own feelings becomes equally important. This self-awareness can help decipher whether your impulse to hold on stems from a genuine desire to support your partner or a less selfless need to feel needed.

The episode also dives into the concept of "promised returns" - assuring your partner of reconnection after periods of self-regulation – an understanding which can provide a sense of security to the anxious partner. By addressing these challenging situations, this discourse helps you navigate the common relationship trials with understanding and empathy, facilitating a way for stronger and healthier relationships.

Join us in this illuminating discussion and gain valuable insights into managing emotional spaces in your relationship, fostering personal growth, and creating a lasting, mature connection. Every relationship is a rhythmic dance of closeness and distancing, with the perfect balance struck in understanding, patience, and love - the core ingredients of the symphony of love.

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S2E6 Ultra-independence: I can do it all by myself and don’t need anyone

Yes, you're so independent. So empowered. So self-reliant. Yet, if deep down you long for a deep connection, feeling like a team, this kind of 'individualism' might sometimes stop you from really leaning into 'togetherness'.

In this episode, I (a recovering 'ultra-independent) share with you 3 things I needed to acknowledge before I could open up to somebody and become a team. Ready? 

 

I'd love to inspire you more. Feel free to download the 6 commitments and deepen your relationality!

S2E5 What would love do?

You might sometimes feel challenged in your relationships with all this old stuff coming up... but so will your lover! And boy oh boy, that can be tough. Especially if you're the punching bag who gets to take in all their sh*t. It's easy to become defensive, angry, or withdraw.

But... what if there was another way? In this episode we turn to the golden question: what would love do? And no, love would not be a doormat ;-)

Learn to become responsive instead of reactive by downloading the 6 commitments now. It will serve you so much!

S2E4 Mirror mirror on the wall...

It's not just rainbows and roses... The reality is that relationships can be brutally challenging at some point. Your partner is a living, breathing, walking, talking mirror who reflects all your deepest wounds. 

Sounds fun, eh ;)

Yet, relationships also bring ultimate growth... Are you open to this? Let's dive in...

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S2E3 Change your language, change your reality

Our languages exposes a lot. Our state, how we see ourselves, how we see the other. Similarly, our state influences our language - yes, it goes both ways.

How can you improve your relationship with yourself, others and your view on the world through your language? That's what we dive into today. 

If you really want to dive in deeper, download the '6 commitments', a free tool and training that will help you improve communication and language to deepen your relationships. 

S2E2 When ’us’ kills desire

Passion! We all believe that losing it will never happen to us, because we are different than the rest of the world ;-). 

And yet, as life happens, time progresses, it might just happen that work, kids, life sucks us in and we forget to make time for each other.

One of the biggest challenges is making sure that all entities in the relationship are nourished: you, your partner, and... the relationship itself.

But... what's the key ingredient if you want your passion to reignite? 

The answer is: otherness. 

In this podcast we dive into how keeping a healthy sense of 'otherness' helps rekindle desire, even when feeling enmeshed into 'us' brings so much security. 

...Enjoy!

S2E1 So you got chemistry, so what?!

It's like the holy grail of dating: to have chemistry, that deeeeeep connection that leads to endless convos and mindblowing s.x. Chemistry is great!

 

But it's not all.

 

In fact, there are 4 determining factors in relationships. You need all four for a relationship to have any chance of becoming long-term. In this episode, you'll learn about these 4 pillars one by one. 

 

Want to get clear for yourself about what you want in the relationship? Download the Clarity Quadrant now!